Sitting here with Edie asleep in my arms
I realise how blessed I am
With my living babies
And with Tilda all the while she was alive
We have had very ‘easy’ babies
Happy smiley content babies
Of course they have all had their moments
But I do not think they have suffered from colic
And I know that we have not battled anything horrid
Like silent reflux
5 breastfed babies
All easy to settle most of the time
With feeding
Or a bouncy cuddle with Daddy
I do remember though the nights they have cried
The nights that they just could not
Would not settle
Nights taking it in turns with David to pace the house
I think one night with Tilda
David took her out in the car
The worst night I remember
With any of our five
Was with Esther
She was less than a year old
She would not feed
Would not sleep
Was not happy to be awake
She cried and cried and cried
I rocked her
Sang to her
Cuddled her
David rocked her
Patted her
Paced with her
We tried everything
All the tools of our trade
That usually did the trick
Nothing worked
I wondered if she might take a bottle of milk
By this time I had been up most of the night
And I was out of ideas
Defrosting breast milk
Warming a bottle
All of those things
I think were more for my sanity than for Esther
And by the time the bottle was ready
She was, of course, asleep
That night has stayed with me for 7 years
There is nothing that upsets me more
Than one of my babies crying
And me not having a clue what to do to help
I cannot imagine how I would feel
If I had a baby
Suffering with colic
Who cried inconsolably like that
For a lot of the time
There is only so many times you can sing
The Ants Went Marching Two by Two
Or
She’ll Be Coming Round The Mountain in one night
There is nothing like the anxiety a mother can feel
When a baby cries
Yet crying is how our babies communicate
We know this
But sleep deprivation and true love can be crippling
And a crying baby can at times be hard not to take personally as a parent
A newborn baby can routinely cry for a total of 1 to 4 hours per day as part of their adjustment to the new life outside the womb!
By paying close attention to their baby’s cries
Parents will soon be able to tell when they need picking up, consoling or if they need feeding
Over time parents may even be able to identify specific needs by the way they cry
These are some typical baby crys
Hungry cry: usually short and low-pitched, it can also rise and fall.
Angry Cry: more turbulent
Cry of pain/distress: generally comes on suddenly and loudly with a long high pitched shriek followed by a pause then a flat wail
“Leave me alone” cry: similar to a hungry cry
Whilst there can often be a solution to help a crying baby
One of the most distressing cries for a parent can be when a baby suffers from colic
I am not sure in all honesty
I have ever recognised a type of cry
I have just somehow known instinctively what to do
And when I haven’t
I have tried everything
Everything
Until something worked
Or baby fell asleep exhausted
Sometimes there is no easy fix
And all new parents should know this
Should be told this
And should know that it is okay
It is okay to not know the reason why
It is okay to not know what to do
It is okay to feel anxious
And to worry
It is okay*
Sometimes a baby just cries
Colic is a medical term for excessive and frequent crying
In a baby who appears to be otherwise healthy and well fed
It usually begins within the first few weeks of life
But often stops by the time the baby is four months old and by six months at the latest
In most cases the intense crying occurs in the late afternoon
Commonly known as ‘the witching hour’
*If you have any doubts as to why your baby is crying or if you are concerned about any symptoms that your baby may have please consult your doctor
If your baby does have colic
You can use Nelsons Colica® Colic Granules
A homeopathic powder that offers baby some relief
Nelsons Colica Colic Granules cost £5.80 and are available from Boots and Superdrug
For more information visit www.nelsonsbaby.co.uk
This is a collaborative post
I have to say, when my son was tiny and started to cry in the late afternoon, it was usually because he was tired. He had a 5pm bedtime for quite a long time. It did make me wonder whether babies who have colic might, in fact, just be worn out and need to go to bed. I’m not planning to have any more so I cant try out my theory! Xx
In the first year of your baby’s life, his primary way of communicating with you will be via crying. In the beginning, it will be difficult to understand why your baby is crying. Is it a cry because he is hungry? sleepy? cold? dirty? uneasy?