Do you know
I have no idea what kind of mum I am
I do know that I am not the kind I thought I would be
For the longest time I did not think I would be a mother at all
But here I am
16 weeks pregnant with baby number five
I wish I was a calm Earth Mother type
I wish I was a baker
A creative crafter
I am none of those things
I am not really very good at anything
Just okay at a few things
Enough to get by
I would like to be one of those mums
That has a place for everything
And everything is always in it’s place
I am nothing like that
See I am very good at telling you what I cannot do
What I am not
But I have no idea what I am
I wish I had a gentle, musical voice
I wish I did not shout as much as I do
I wish I was funny
And natural at play
But nothing about parenting comes naturally to me
I wish I was carefree
A go with the flow ‘kinda gal’
I wish I was spontaneous
But alas I am not
And so the question remains
Sunlife have created a quiz
That might just give me the answers I am searching for
Perhaps it could also help you?
Do you know what kind of mummy you are?
According to the Sunlife Mum Quiz
I am Organic Mum
I do not see this in me at all
But here you go
Apparently I am generous
I give my children all the love and attention that they need
I am open to most ideas
I encourage free thinking
I am open minded
I have an artistic mind
I have a live and learn approach to life
And want my children to have the same
Maybe this is the mummy I could be
If I was not so anxious about everything
I would love for you to take the quiz
And tell me what kind of mummy you are
Do you agree with the analysis?
What kind of mummy do you believe you are?
And what about me?
I would love to know what kind of mummy you know
Or imagine me to be
Have fun!
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I think the amount of time and attention you give your kids is amazing. I adore my children, but I have to admit, I really didn’t enjoy them much as toddlers. I loved them as sweet cuddly babies and now as school age children who can has a conversation with me it’s great, but if I’m really honest, I found trying to play with them as toddlers really boring. I had nowhere near the patience you do! I honestly could not have spent all day every day playing with them – I liked it for up to an hour and then would just want them to play without me needing to be involved. I find that this is stuff I can’t admit to most people without being judged. I know I am a good mum in many other ways but that wasn’t one of them. You’re not supposed to say that you find playing with your kids quite boring but, I did! I really admire and envy that you genuinely seem to enjoy it and they will have so many memories of immersive play experiences you created and joined in! So precious.
I think as mums we judge each other and ourselves too harshly and are reluctant to say something we are good at, but focus on the bad. So I’m going to say something I’m good at: I’m an excellent mother to my teenagers because I’m open and approachable and they don’t feel like they need to hide things from me and sneak around behind my back like I did as a teen. We have open conversations and are really close, and I genuinely believe that if anything bad happened (relationships, sex, drinking, someone being in trouble, etc etc) they wouldn’t hesitate to come to my immediately.
Try it – tell us what you are GREAT at!! Xxx
I hope with all my heart to be a good mum to my teenagers when the time comes. My best friend is an awesome mum to her teenage son but it is because she has been an amazing mum his whole life. You only get that closeness and trust from years of being a good mummy x x x x x
I don’t know if that’s quite true Jennie. I was often a rubbish mum when my children were
young, often impatient, finding playing with them boring, over strict at times. Now they are all adults, and we are very close and would do anything for each other. They are all great people, and I’m so proud of them. Mind you, one of their favourite things to do on occasions when they’re all together is to chat and laugh about all my failings as a mother! I
think (hope!) it’s done with affection! We are all only human, with human failings, and we can only do our best and hope for the best!
I think my point is that however rubbish we are our children do not always see it. And I think we are all better mummies than we judge ourselves to be. I think being hard on ourselves is part of the journey however much we try not to be x A healthy dose of honesty and humour always helps here when Mummy is a bit ‘bonkers’ x
I got organic mum too….but it sounds nothing like me. I am often short tempered, shouting, tired, and anxious mum!
Ha ha! Me too! x x x x x