Hello
My name is Jennie and thanks to the wonderful Gummee Glove I will be at Brit Mums Live 2014
This year will be my third year
My first year I had just had Matilda Mae and this is what I learned
My second year I had not long lost her
This year I am still without her
But I am with bump
My beautiful Rainbow Baby to be
As I start to write this post
My heart is in my throat
I know that once again I am going to find Brit Mums hard
A conference centre full of people
Who know me because my baby died
People who might not know what to say to me
People who are wondering how I am now but are too scared to ask
At Brit Mums Live 2014 I will be 33 weeks pregnant
Judging by the size of my blossoming bump
You are not going to be able to miss me
Please do come and say hello if you would like to
Please do come and give me a cuddle
Especially if I am looking lost and lonely
Or look like I am in need of some company
Please don’t judge me
If I am smiling or even laughing
It does not mean that I am not also sad
This Bump does not and can not replace the baby that I lost
I will always miss my daughter
I miss her every single day
You will not make me sad by mentioning her name
I would find it stranger if you did not
You will make me proud to know that she is remembered
By more than just my family and me
I am her mummy
And I love talking about my daughter
The problem with all of the above though
Is that I do not generally find talking easy
I am quite shy with people
But please do say hello
If you would like to
Here are my answers to the questions for this year’s linky
Name Jennie
Blog Edspire: Wishing on a Star
Twitter ID @Edspire
Height 5’6
Hair Long and dark with a purple hint at the moment
Eyes Brown
This is my third time at Brit Mums Live and I have also been to The Mad Blog Awards twice
I will be attending both days and am looking forward to catching up with friends and learning about using video on my blog, something I would like to do more of
This year, for the second year, I am a BIBS finalist in the Inspire category.
Last year I knew before the event who would win that category, and she did, deservedly so.
It was the very lovely Tamsyn from Anecdotes of a Manic Mum
She won and I was so proud of her
I still am so proud to know her
I remember driving with David to the train station and telling him, through tears, that I knew she would win the Inspire award
And how did I know?
David and I lost our daughter
It has been and continues to be horrific
Unbearable
Life is unimaginably hard
But we have each other
I am not sure that I would function at all if I were to lose David
I broke down last year trying to explain this to my amazing husband
To the awe inspiring Tamsyn
And because I still break down
I am certain that this year the deserved winner of that category will be Ben from Life as a Widower
I am not belittling my loss or my grief
Or the life of and my love for Matilda Mae
A wife who loses a husband is called a widow. A husband who loses a wife is called a widower. A child who loses his parents is called an orphan. There is no word for a parent who loses a child. That’s how awful the loss is.
Jay Neugeboren, An Orphan’s Tale
But I know that without David
My life would be unlivable
I have thought that enough times about Matilda Mae
And David has been the one to pull me through
David and Esther and William
I am so grateful to people who nominated me
Who for a second year in a row
Found something here inspirational
And that is enough for me
Thank you
And if you are going to be at Brit Mums Live 2014
Then I hope to see you there
The reality is that you will grieve forever. You will not ‘get over’ the loss of a loved one; you will learn to live with it. You will heal and you will rebuild yourself around the loss you have suffered. You will be whole again but you will never be the same. Nor should you be the same nor would you want to.
Elizabeth Kubler-Ross and John Kessler
I think Ben will win too, and deservedly so. He writes so well, a huge inspiration x
Oh darling, I will be there and it will be so good to see you and to give you a hug. You write beautifully and so honestly and have the respect and love of the whole community, your blog as with the others deserve recognition and to win. Sending lots of love x
Beautiful post Jennie. none of us will EVER forget Matilda Mae, she will be in our hearts forever. I will come and seek you out. You look absolutely beautiful with that bump 🙂 x x
So sorry I am going to miss you again. We will be busy moving to Sweden… I would have loved to give you a hug or two and to tell you that Matilda is in my thoughts forever.
Love, Deborah x
PS: Love the bump pictures. So beautiful!