At the moment I am trying to organise a barn dance for Baby Tilda.
In her memory I would like to bring families together to dance and make merry on the day when she will have been dead for 9 months.
It is not going to be a nice day for us if we are home alone, so I admit there are selfish reasons for wanting to organise this event.
The following day, Sunday 3rd November 2013, Tilda will have been dead for longer than she was alive and I cannot even imagine how I am going to deal with that.
David and I are both dreading it.
We are dreading November.
Our beautiful daughter will have been dead for longer than she was alive.
It is a concept not even imaginable for most parents.
It is a reality we will soon be living everyday.
Already we are wading through grief and fear and anger and resentment and sadness because our little girl is dead.
It is important to me to mark this day.
Saturday 2nd November 2013.
9 months in the womb, 9 months in my arms and 9 months dead.
I want to organise a barn dance.
With music and dancing to be enjoyed
I want there to be bunting and fairy lights
I want to see children play
Parents relax and enjoy the day
Generations of families coming together
Celebrating life
Love
I thought it would be easy to find the perfect venue
To create the dream in my head
But it is not proving easy at all so far
The only possibility so far is an aircraft hangar
I like the symbolism
The link to Baby Tilda in the sky
But they will not allow hay bales
And the ceiling is so high
I am not sure that bunting would work.
I am feeling deflated, defeated, today
But I need to find my determination and drive somehow
I need to make this work
For the daughter I miss every day
Who will never have her chance to dance.
Can you help me please?
I need a venue for a barn dance
Saturday 2nd November 2013
For around 200 guests
From midday til the evening
Music and dancing
Bunting, balloons, hay bales and fairy lights
I need a place to honour our girl
And raise money for The Lullaby Trust
If you can help us with our event please get in touch
jennie@edspire.co.uk
You can read my vision for The Baby Tilda Barn Dance here.
Thank you x
Hi Jennie, I think it might help to know whereabouts in the country you are, so that people in that area can look at places? I realise that it might not matter where the barn dance is, but obviously it would be silly to suggest places in Scotland, for example, if you are in Cornwall or something. Massive hugs to you, I can’t imagine the strength it will take for you to get through that day, and the ones after it. Xxx
With the right lay out and decorations, I’m sure a hangar would work…could you mark out areas and pile up crates/sturdy cardboard boxes/similar and then have bunting strung between poles? So it wouldn’t be side-to-side bunting but specific areas would be made to look like they were part of a ‘traditional’ barn dance set-up.
Would you consider a marquee?
Yes x
Could you have a marquee overlooking an airstrip, something like this?
http://www.aviatorbytag.com/events/terrace-lawn
Have you tried those ones I sent you via Facebook DM? If not, I’m happy to try them. I’ll have a look around this way too as it’s still fairly central (Cheshire). I’ll ask about and get back to you but let me know about the ones I sent you. Such a shame the hangar won’t allow hay bales. Try not to feel deflated, if there is one thing I have found out through blogging, it’s that bloggers coming together can make ANYTHING possible xx
Have emailed you
This isn’t in the area you were hoping but close to where you live. It looks the perfect place for hay bales and bunting.
http://www.hollambys.co.uk/weddingvenue.htm